Hot off the press from our Thrivecraft – Wake Up Your Wisdom – workshop last weekend, here is a video extract teaching the deep principles at work when we apply the Law of Attraction to manifest the things we want in our life.
Srimati explains manifestation formula – 100% INTENTION + 100% SURRENDER = MANIFESTATION.
And the principle of HAVINGNESS, which is neither ‘can’t have’ nor ‘must have’.
July 16, 2013 | Categories: Abraham Hicks, Abundance, Abundance, Ah meditation, Ask Your Inner Wisdom, attachment, Awareness, Creating Abundance, creating money, Creativity, Finding Answers, Finding True Love, Follow Your Bliss, guided meditation, inner guidance, inner wisdom, Inspiration, inspirational coaching, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, Love, Love and relationships, manifestation, meditation, meditation for inner answers, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, non-attachment, prosperity, Rachel Elnaugh, relationships, self worth, spiritual coaching, spiritual intelligence, telepathy, The Ah Meditation, The Secret, true love, valuing yourself | Tags: Ah meditation, finding answers, guided meditation, Inner experience, inner wisdom, inner world, inspiration, instinct, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, making clear decisions, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, personal guidance, Rachel Elnaugh, self help, spiritual guidance, spiritual intelligence, spirituality, spirituality in business, telepathic marketing, wise counsel | Leave a comment
July Thrivecraft Workshop
Wake Up Your Wisdom:
Intuition, Manifestation and Channeling
Near Totnes, Devon, UK
Sat 13 / Sun 14 July 2013
Develop red-hot INTUITION you can trust
Open the floodgates to CREATIVE ideas
Learn how to make the RIGHT decisions
Apply the SECRETS of mind-to-mind attraction
Activate your very own life-long inner GUIDANCE
During this relaxed workshop you can give your hard-working thinking mind a rest! Instead, you will learn how to easily tap into your own deep wisdom to find brilliant answers and solutions at every turn. But don’t be deceived by the retreat-like experience of the day – this stuff is powerful!
With a mixture of interactive practical exercises, talks and guided contemplations, you will be shown how to hone your hunches into reliable intuition you can depend on. You will learn how to make the secret law of attraction work for you and practice a powerful ‘make it happen’ technique that manifests your hopes into reality.
There will be opportunities to ask questions and give your comments along the way. And there will be plenty of time to connect with other participants – typically a calibre group of open minded professionals, creatives, innovators and conscious entrepreneurs.
You will leave feeling equipped to employ a whole new dimension of yourself – your own inner wisdom – in your life, love, work and business. With the constant wise support of your inner guidance and intuition, things will never be the quite the same. Just see what happens next!
At Glazebrook Country House Hotel
Near Totnes, Devon, UK
includes lunches and refreshments
For more info and to book, click orange button below:
June 17, 2013 | Categories: A Course in Miracles, Abraham Hicks, Abundance, Abundance, Ah meditation, Ask Your Inner Wisdom, Awareness, business, Creating Abundance, creating money, Creativity, Dr Wayne W Dyer, feminine wisdom, Finding Answers, Finding True Love, Follow Your Bliss, guided meditation, holistic, How to say no, inner wisdom, Inspiration, inspirational coaching, intuition, Judy Piatkus, law of attraction, life balance, life coaching, Love, Love and relationships, manifestation, meditation, meditation for inner answers, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, non-attachment, prosperity, relationships, self worth, spiritual coaching, spiritual intelligence, telepathic marketing, telepathy, The Ah Meditation, The Secret, true love, unconditional love, valuing yourself | Tags: Ah meditation, business, dealing with a crisis, entrepreneur, finding answers, guided meditation, gut feelings, Inner experience, inner wisdom, inner world, inspired entrepreneurs, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, love, making clear decisions, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, personal guidance, self help, spiritual guidance, spiritual intelligence, spirituality, spirituality in business, telepathic communication, telepathic marketing, wise counsel | Leave a comment
“What can I expect to get from your workshop?” asks Karen Davies of http://www.mywellbeinguk.co.uk
Here’s my answer!
April 13, 2013 | Categories: Abundance, Ask Your Inner Wisdom, Creating Abundance, creating money, Finding Answers, guided meditation, holistic, inner guidance, inner wisdom, Inspiration, inspirational coaching, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, manifestation, meditation, meditation for inner answers, metaphysics, prosperity, self worth, spiritual coaching, spiritual intelligence, spiritual marketing, support groups, telepathic marketing, The Ah Meditation, The Secret, valuing yourself | Tags: Abundance, Ah meditation, Creating abundance, creating money, finding answers, guided meditation, gut feelings, heart and soul, Inner experience, inner wisdom, inner world, inspiration, inspired entrepreneurs, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, personal guidance, prosperity, self worth, spiritual guidance, spiritual intelligence, spirituality, spirituality in business, valuing yourself, wise counsel | Leave a comment
You know about the Law of Attraction and have long been practising positive thinking and affirmations.
Whether you were switched on in the 60s when you learned to meditate, during the 80s reading Louise Hay’s ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ or relatively recently watching the DVD of ‘The Secret’, you are familiar with the universal principle that we “create our own reality”.
But have you REALLY got the hang of it? Are you seeing all the positive developments you would like in your life?
There’s a subtle principle at the heart of manifestation practises that makes all the difference. It’s something that took me a while to grasp, and I’ve been studying and practising these arts for over 30 years!
The key is to be truly RECEPTIVE as well as positively focussed. As well as ‘asking’ for what we desire to come into our life, it is important to allow ourselves to really ‘receive’ it.
If we are too narrow, tense or controlling, about the details of how or when our dreams will come to fruition, we risk repelling what we desire. We must be relaxed and open for it to truly ‘land’.
There’s a formula (more of a metaphor, really) that I like to use which is
100% intention + 100% surrender = manifestation
In other words, as well as being clear, committed and focussed on your desired outcome (100% intention), it is equally important to let go of any attachment to what may or may not happen (100% surrender).
Letting go of attachment releases tension. YOU don’t have to figure out how or when it’s going to happen. YOU don’t have to control or manipulate events to make it happen. Instead, you surrender to a higher intelligence in the universe (God, karma, nature, destiny, law of attraction – however you experience it) and simply put your trust in the process.
It may seem like a paradox – to be 100% intentional and 100% surrendered at the same time – but it’s not. An attitude of bright hope, eagerness and positivity combined with relaxation, faith and receptivity is completely magnetic!
The true power of manifestation lies in our ability to lift our energy, our spirit, our vibration to the level of what we desire. Once we do that, people, events and opportunities match that energy and mirror it right back to us.
If it’s a promotion you seek – imagine yourself happy in your new job. If it’s a soul mate – feel what it’s like to be fulfilled in love. If it’s a more prosperous way of living – visualise living in that bigger house, driving that new car.
Once you inhabit what you seek in your imagination (as though it’s already happening) with consistent energy and focus – and at the same time let go of tension and control – you create the optimum environment for it to show up in your life.
Rachel Elnaugh (Dragons’ Den) discusses the art of manifestation with Srimati
The ‘art of manifestation’ penny finally dropped with me listening to the fabulous Abraham-Hicks teachings. (One of my all time favourite spiritual teachings)
Abraham-Hicks explain that it is not really a matter of ‘manifesting’ in the sense of creating things out there and moving towards them. Rather, we simply create the energetic magnetic field within ourselves, keep a relaxed focus and allow those things (that have already been created simply by our wishing them) to move towards us – something they will inevitably do.
It is a question of ALLOWING – not earning, not winning, not acquiring – simply resonating with and then ALLOWING.
Another of my favourite teachings comes via Wayne Dyer in the form of the Ah Meditation. Like the Abraham-Hicks teachings, this practice has long been integrated into my coaching and workshops.
The Ah meditation is a perfect way to develop 100% intention and 100% surrender.
It is a simple, short and powerful manifestation technique that will catapult your efforts into hyperdrive!
In the following videos I am teaching the Ah meditation at the Entrepreneurs Find Inner Wisdom event (attended by Rachel above) a couple of years ago, followed by a guided practice.
Please be my guest and let me know how you get on with it…
August 5, 2012 | Categories: Abraham Hicks, Abundance, Abundance, Ah meditation, attachment, Awareness, Creating Abundance, Dr Wayne W Dyer, Finding True Love, I Can Heal Your Life, inner guidance, inner wisdom, inspirational coaching, intuition, law of attraction, Louise Hay, manifestation, meditation, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, non-attachment, spiritual intelligence, The Ah Meditation, The Secret, Wayne Dyer | Tags: Ah meditation, guided meditation, inner wisdom, law of attraction, Louise Hay, making clear decisions, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, The Secret, Wayne Dyer, You Can Heal Your Life | 2 Comments
It’s the eve of Valentine’s Day and I’m thinking about LOVE…
Love has to be my favourite topic and I have written articles, scoped out books, given talks, recorded videos, led workshops and guided meditations on love many, many times.
So how do you find your ideal partner?
It took me a while to find the true love relationship I always wanted. I was 38 and Pat was 50 before we met and we’d both had our fair share of ups and downs in relationship before finding each other.
Here’s my article from Connect Magazine – Meeting My Match – about how I finally prepared myself for and attracted a really great life partner:
Pat and I at our wedding in 2003 – making offerings to the river
It wasn’t long before I was inspired to run Get Ready for Love workshops as part of my coaching practice. During the course of a weekend, participants dived into the deep and delightful process of preparing themselves for a superb relationship.
This article by the Daily Express, shares some of my top tips on getting ready for love:
In this video, I remind us of the golden rules that enable us to attract what we really want into our lives – including a great partner:
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone. Please do share your own true love stories with us here in the comments box. It’s a wonderful thing to share…
February 13, 2012 | Categories: Ah meditation, Dragon's Den, Embracing the Beloved, Embracing the Beloved, Finding God Through Sex, Finding True Love, inspirational coaching, law of attraction, manifestation, meditation, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, metta bhavana, Rachel Elnaugh, Raw and Real, relationships, true love | Tags: Ah meditation, love, manifestation, meditation, Rachel Elnaugh | Leave a comment
In the last few days I’ve been reading a book by spiritual teacher Dr Wayne W Dyer called There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem. It’s great – so relevant, uplifting and re-assuring – and is awakening many creative thoughts within me.
Wayne first became a source of inspiration for me after my husband Pat introduced his work to me eight or nine years ago. During the 1990s, Wayne taught the Ah meditation – a manifestation practice that he’d learned from one of his Indian Gurus – and Pat and I have been passing it on to friends, colleagues and clients ever since our Thrivecraft days.
Last year, I explored the practice in depth at my Entrepreneurs Find Inner Wisdom event, held here in Totnes, Devon. This was filmed, but apart from posting the videos on my blog soon afterwards, I have not really made a point of publishing them. Despite this, I have noticed that often people find the videos searching for information on the Ah meditation, so perhaps it’s about time that I made them more available…
Having plucked Wayne’s book off my bookshelf recently (and realised it was gifted to me by my special guest at Entrepreneurs Find Inner Wisdom – former BBC TV Dragon and business mentor, Rachel Elnaugh) I took this as a sign that it was time to run the Ah meditation video series here on my blog.
So here you are, a series of six short videos on the Ah meditation to dip into. Do let me know what you think – and what results you get! Enjoy!
1. Manfestation – You are a magician!
2. Introducing the Ah Meditation – Background and How to
3. Questions on the Ah Meditation – Do You Have to Believe for it to Work?
4. Preparing to do the Ah Meditation – Guided Relaxation / Opening the Chakras
5. Practising the Ah Meditation – Guided Practice
6. Concluding the Ah Meditation – Guided Om Chanting
October 5, 2011 | Categories: Abundance, Ah meditation, Awareness, business, business mentor, Dr Wayne W Dyer, Dragon's Den, inner guidance, inspirational coaching, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, manifestation, meditation, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, Rachel Elnaugh, spiritual coaching, spiritual intelligence, spiritual marketing, telepathic marketing, telepathy, Uncategorized, Wayne Dyer | Tags: Ah meditation, business, calming emotions, entrepreneur, finding answers, guided meditation, Inner experience, inner wisdom, inner world, inspiration, inspired entrepreneurs, intuition, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, personal guidance, self help, spiritual guidance, spiritual intelligence, spirituality in business, telepathic communication, telepathic marketing, Wayne Dyer, wise counsel | 3 Comments
Totnes is full of single mothers and hardly any single men – my new friends in Devon were quite adamant. “I hope you’re not expecting to find a partner down here!” But I wasn’t moving to Totnes to find a partner, not yet anyway.
After 16 years living in a Buddhist community in London, it was time to move on, and my longing for a rural lifestyle could no longer be ignored. But most importantly of all, my seven-year-old son, Jamie, deserved a more gentle upbringing than a city could afford.
Despite the good reasons, however, there was also an element of strange magnetism I couldn’t put my finger on. In many ways I was leaving a great situation and jumping into the unknown, but there was a compelling force drawing me on – and I had a daring, inexplicable knowledge that this was absolutely the right move.
So, one sunny September morning in 2001, I packed my little grey Peugot to bursting, strapped Jamie in the front beside me, and set off for our new life in the country.
At 37, I was a free agent for the first time pretty much since my teens. I’d split amicably from Jamie’s dad two years ago. It was the most civilised split I’ve ever heard of, but even so, the impact of separating the family was utterly devastating.
My escape came in the form of a smouldering Spanish guy from my 5 Rhythms dance class. However it wasn’t long before I became emotionally trashed by this crazy sex fest of a so called relationship. I was so fragile that I clung on for far too long. Moving to Devon would make sure it was over for good. For the first time in all those years, I was single, and I felt it. I was F – R – E – E !
My heart was soaring when we got out to stretch our legs at Stonehenge. What an incredible monument to mark the half way point to Devon. The sky was blue and the ancient stones seemed to be humming with affirmation that we were doing the right thing. We weren’t in dirty, frantic, complicated London now. Here was the gateway to a whole new magical realm.
Our first base was a caravan in a charming farm campsite not far from Totnes. We were leaving behind a lovely, secure and affordable home in London. It was part of a triangle of Victorian maisonettes with gardens backing on to each other so the kids were safe to roam around with each other.
I was glad that Jamie still had some of that now – access to an indoor swimming pool and an adventure playground and a few other families who were temporarily living at the campsite during the offseason just like us.
There was a lot to do – a home to find, school for Jamie, money to earn, new friends to make. I was fully occupied and completely excited by the experience of making this beautiful place our home.
Originally a spa town, Totnes is known as the ‘alternative capital of the UK’ and has attracted all sorts of interesting people and progressive projects into it’s midst over the decades. And driving through the stunning countryside brought me out in mild bliss every day – very different from the tension that inevitably comes with ‘cheeky driving’ through London traffic.
But by night I was lonely and reeling from all the changes. Jamie was having a tough time too and was playing up appallingly. He was understandably disturbed and angry about being ripped away from all he knew, and I was feeling the strain and guilt. (What possessed me to think he’d settle at the fairy-like Steiner School after his formative years in inner city mainstream education?)
Sometimes the grief and disorientation were almost unbearable. It would have been so comforting to have someone intimate to share all this with – a manly chest to snuggle into…
So, in night time lonely autopilot, I reached out half heartedly for a liaison. Computer dating was a pleasant distraction, safe in the knowledge that everyone was at a reassuring cyber distance. The few dates I met up with soon dissolved any cosy illusions of romance I’d entertained myself with.
There were also a few ‘real’ single men I ran into (despite what my friends had said, Totnes seemed to have plenty of them). I spent a month with Martin no.1, and another with Martin no.2, and hung out with an attractive new friend while he was between girlfriends. But none of it was right and nothing got off the ground.
I knew that this was because I still had some healing to do, and at last I decided to co-operate with the process. I needed to do what usually has to be done when recovering from one relationship and preparing for another – to stay in the gap for as long as it takes and be with myself for a while.
I was overdue to complete some unfinished emotional business – to understand what had happened and why; to let go of hurts and fears; to re-asses who I am now; and establish what kind of relationship would be good for me next.
As a meditator I already had an invaluable tool at my disposal. Meditation gives emotional space and opens up a bigger perspective that allows us to face challenges positively. Along with regular chats with insightful friends and family, my meditation practise gave me the resources to navigate my way through the stormy emotional waters.
So did my practice of 5 Rhythms Dance. At my weekly class, and in the privacy of my own home, this wonderful form of dance free expression accessed and gave full voice to the stories and emotions stuck in my body. I danced and roared and stamped and cried (a lot!) and laughed and gave thanks and laid the ghosts to rest. Over the weeks I became clearer, free-er and more peaceful.
In early February I attended a sweat lodge held by a lovely local shaman down by the River Dart. In the dark, eerie beauty of a winter forest, we ceremonially heated huge stones in a roaring wooden pyre. Once ready, the hot stones were brought into the lodge one by one and sprinkled with sage water.
We sat in a circle inside the lodge, naked and in total darkness, sweating and singing and praying. It was like being inside a womb of pure spirit. We spoke aloud one at a time, each prayer seeming to come from infinite consciousness and be sent out into the entire universe. My prayer was spontaneous and ardent – “Please help me let go of the past and allow me the time and space I need before I get involved in another relationship.”
During one of my more contented evenings, and inspired by Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s book, ‘The Invitation’, I did some reflective writing. In a deep, prayerful way, I wrote about what I longed for – the kind of loving partner that would be ideal for me.
It was almost sacreligious to be so damn honest about what would be utterly wonderful for me. I’d never given myself permission to state these things before. But once it was down on paper I found I was moved by the quality of person I was describing in those two dozen short paragraphs. And somehow, having committed my vision to paper, this man began to take on a tangible existence. It was spooky. It was as though I had begun to create a reality, or at least, call a reality towards me.
Having read widely about metaphysical principles since then, I know that this is exactly what is occurring when we make things conscious and decide to move towards them. As my old Buddhist teacher used to say, ‘It’s not so much that man wills, but that will man’s’. In other words our will manifests into form not the other way around. We become what we wish for. We create our reality from our thoughts and feelings and expectations.
Now, in my work as a coach, writing about ideals is an exercise that my clients use with unremittingly powerful results. But back then, I somewhat innocently placed my writings on my meditation shrine, and forgot about them. Little did I know that I’d planted a seed that would invisibly grow into a garden of opportunity, or that I’d soon be looking upon the face of the man who would become my husband.
At first I didn’t realise I’d met him. As far as I was concerned, this ‘Pat’ guy was just a housemate of a childminder friend I’d gotten to know at Jamie’s school.
Ann and I used to hang out at each other’s houses while our boys played together. So my first few meetings with Pat were incidental – brief interactions during a flurry of noisy, stampeding boys needing after school snacks. I was in ‘mum mode’ and, anyway, I had a background distraction still rolling with one man or another I was half involved with. I wasn’t paying attention where it was due. It took me a further couple of months to wake up. And what a wake up call it was.
Towards the end of April, my much loved, dear, wise, loving gran was dying in Scotland. My sister was giving me bulletins every day, and I was waiting for news of her final passing. Life was sharp. My heart was so open.
Contrastingly, I was experiencing impossibly crossed wires with Martin no.2 and decided to finish it. The very night I broke it off he fell off his steep garden terrace and was hospitalised with a broken back. I was shocked into further acute awakeness.
That same week (intuitively picking up on what was about to happen, I’m sure) I had my Spanish ex-lover from London on the phone asking for one last chance. For the first and last time, I said ‘No’ properly. It was after the sweat lodge prayer and I was crystal clear. Now I was truly free from any involvment whatsoever. I was free to pay attention where it was due.
On the Tuesday I arrived for a session of Holographic Repatterning with my friend Christina. I had booked the session a week ago to help with my relationship with Jamie, but there was something else on the menu.
It soon emerged that the key theme I was ready to explore was meeting the right partner. In the session, Christina revealled to me that I held the unconsious belief that ‘I could never meet a partner that could meet me on all levels’. This was a core reason I had been compromising myself in other relationships. She worked with me over 2 hours to shift this belief, and, three days later…
Pat was covering his childminder housemate’s shift for the day and we were looking after the boys together in the school yard. (Actually, Ann had been trying to set us up for a while as Pat had already eyeballed me with great interest, but I hadn’t noticed). It was the first chance Pat and I had to really talk.
I told him about Martin no.2 and the broken back. Knowing a little about me he commented that it’s very difficult to have a relationship with someone who isn’t spiritual if you are yourself. I liked him. I liked the way he sat on a rock in the playground and looked like a cowboy from the wild west.
Although I didn’t know why, I agreed that I might meet him for a drink that night. I was feeling incredibly sensitive and anti-social (and a pub is the last place I’d go at the best of times) but something led me into the Sea Trout Inn.
The Sea Trout was Pat’s regular drinking hole, just a stone’s throw from the cottage Christina had found for us to move into after our stay in the caravan. I laid aside my puritanical Buddhist prejudices and was pleasantly surprised by the level of meaningful communication happening amongst the public bar locals.
Pat was typically animated and in full flood “You’ve gotta get outta yar head and intta yar heart” he was insisting. He sounded like a cowboy too, or maybe one of those charismatic American preachers.
“A bit full on” I thought to myself, but I was intrigued. And then, suddenly, in the middle of all the passionate discussion, Pat and I gazed intently upon each other. ‘I see you’, he said, slowly and knowingly. ‘I see you too’, I replied with equal gravitas.
In that moment, we did indeed truly see one another. It was like a lightening flash had struck and lit up the entire vast landscape of who we are. The moment returned to darkness, but the flash revealed something forever. In that moment I realised that I recognised Pat, that I knew him, and with that knowledge came the deepest trust and truest love.
We parted in the car park with us both feeling somewhat stunned. “I lo…lo…lo…” Pat stammered. He seemed to be saying something and stuffing it back into his mouth at the same time. He looked as perplexed as I felt. Was he trying to resist saying that he LOVES me? Nah. Surely not.
I went back to the cottage and received the news that my gran had just passed away. Dear Gran. Dear kind, loving, strong, simple, generous, understanding, fiesty, affectionate gran. My spirit couldn’t help but elevate to commune with her and God and the afterlife and all of that other indecribable stuff that these words just don’t do justice to. Her love and essence were filling the Devon skies and I just had to fly with her for a while.
As if in a dream, I found myself popping into the pub at Sunday lunchtime to find Pat. It was completely unplanned. All of a sudden I was there inviting him to take a walk on Dartmoor with me.
We talked about Gran and meditation. Sitting by a rock pool, he told me he would have loved to study psychology if he’d ever been able to. I told him that psychology had been my main subject at University.
Without thinking about it, I took his hand as we walked back to the car. It was as though a greater force was acting through me. I certainly didn’t have the where-with-all to acknowledge what was going on, or make any judgements with my head. I was in the spontanieous and innocent world of my heart alright.
We shared our first kiss in the Sea Trout car park the next night. I was preparing to go to Gran’s funeral later that week. “Come… Back… To… Me…” Pat said gently and plainly. I’d already explained that I had a few romantic loose ends to tie up and couldn’t promise anything. “Take whatever time you need”, he replied.
The day before I flew to Scotland, he appeared in the school playground at pick up time. Pressing a rose quartz into my hand, he wished me well on my trip. Keen interest and support, understanding and freedom. This was a recipe for love. I recognised these qualities from my ideal man list.
It took me another couple of weeks to fully absorb the significance of what was occurring, but in the aftermath of my gran’s funeral, it was a simple and inevitable fact that we would love each other and be together. “Shall we love each other, then?” Pat had asked after an evening of endless, sublime kissing. “Yes, let’s” I replied, but it didn’t really need an answer.
I’d never experienced anything like it. There was no posturing or trying to impress each other and no attempts to hide our less favourable attributes – we were just relaxed and unselfconscious with each other from the very beginning. And there was no question about whether or not we’d be together – no push-pull fear of rejection or of being overwhelmed, no insecurity whatsoever.
Likewise, there was no great destabilising intoxication – the feelings were immediate and profound, but our heads were clear and our feet were on the ground. It was so straight forward – complete harmony, complete certainty – and left nothing to negotiate.
Sixteen months later, we were married.
As I was to discover, Pat had also prepared well for the arrival of what he called a ‘divine relationship’ in his life.
A long time meditator like me, Pat had worked through all the issues raised by previous relationships. He particularly practised forgiveness (including himself) and was unusually clear, more so than me, of the sort of relationship backlog that we often carry into future relationships (and mess up by referring back to ghosts instead of the person with us now).
He had also used a specific manifestation meditation to call his vision of a relationship into being. Popularised and taught by Dr Wayne Dyer in the 80s, this ancient practise brings together the power of the chakras, the voice, and creative visualisation. We call it the Ah/Om meditation.
Most importantly of all, perhaps, Pat adopted an attitude that he referred to as ‘100% intention with 100% surrender’. Although he was very clear about the partner he sought and would not compromise with less, he was also prepared for it not to happen and would be perfectly happy to stay alone should he not find his match.
This is the fine and paradoxical art of being open to one’s aspirations and creative possibilities while at the same time being fluid with our expectations. Many people either don’t let themselves dream through fear of not suceeding or strangle their dreams by having too much at stake and therefore too desparate for them to come true.
Often we don’t let ourselves aspire by assuming we won’t succeed (‘Can’t have’), or corrupt our aspirations into egotistical ambitions by having too much self-worth at stake if they flounder (‘Must have’).
Either way, it betrays a lack of self-knowledge and self-belief. When we see ourselves clearly and believe in ourselves, we don’t need to push things away or grab things towards us to shore up a hollow sense of ourselves. We can allow things to be what they are, free from what we have invested in them. In this freedom we can experience the natural flow of coming and going, and somewhat magically, all our true needs are satisfied (‘Having-ness’).
I didn’t believe that I could find someone who could meet me on all levels, so how could I HAVE that sort of relationship. Pat certainly can meet me on all levels.
This relationship is easily the most satisfying and stimulating either of us has ever known on the domestic, physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual levels. It is grounded and it is sacred. We are plumming depths and scaling heights together that would have been hard to access alone.
Of course it is also intense and challenging. We share so much. As well as living together and joining our families, we co-created our first coaching practice, Thrivecraft.
One day last year, I came across the description of the ideal partner I wrote all that time ago. As Pat and I re-read it together, I was filled with a strange, joyful realisation. The man who those words described was now nuzzling my neck, sharing my life and my deepest aspirations.
It’s amazing what we can magnetise into our lives with clear intention and positivity. Now I understand a little more about those compelling forces that brought me to Devon.
June 22, 2010 | Categories: Ah meditation, inner guidance, inspirational coaching, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, manifestation, meditation, Meeting Your Love Match, metaphysics, spiritual coaching | Tags: Ah meditation, gut feelings, intuition, law of attraction, life coaching, love, manifestation, meditation, metaphysics, personal guidance, self help, spiritual guidance, spirituality, Wayne Dyer | 11 Comments
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