Yes he has. He is away, away in another dimension…
And he did it magnificently, slipping away peacefully after six and a half weeks in hospital from early January. He’d been increasingly poorly since the autumn, but we had Christmas and New Year together at home, unaware of what was about to happen. In hospital after a fall like a felled tree and seizures, he was in another world, yet seemed to be working through the last of his soul mission before letting go. He waited until after my birthday and Valentines Day and passed on 21 February.
Paddy’s funeral mid March was fabulous. Despite storms and a covid resurgence, friends and family from Scotland, Devon and Cornwall, old and new, gathered to celebrate his life. Our dear friends Mark and Christina (who had also helped officiate at our wedding in 2003) hosted the service beautifully.
For the three weeks after he passed, I had poured all of my love into creating a service, life story, music, visual tribute and reception that did him proud. And Paddy contributed during the process – switching on motion sensor lights, and the CD player off, and changing the screensaver on my laptop – at various points to illustrate his favour or otherwise of my choices.
My niece Karen’s choir sang A Thousand Years outside the crematorium as we arrived – a song I’d just been learning at Rock Choir and I’d sung to Paddy in his last weeks. Knowing he was close, I asked the nurses to play it to him an hour before he passed. “One step closer. Don’t be afraid. I will love you, for a thousand years.”
Paddy has been showing up frequently as a single rook – the first time wheeling and squawking directly above my head, then following me along the seaside road, despite the wind being so strong it was almost blowing me over. A spirited rook appeared at the funeral too, seen hopping and flying around through the floor to ceiling window behind his coffin at the end of his life story then visual tribute. We were all amazed!
Immediately after I’d said farewell to my last funeral visitors, I contracted mild Covid. The next 10 days was a forced retreat of illness, isolation and grief. It was harsh, yet fast-tracked me through so much. For most of the time before the funeral I was in a kind of supernatural state of sublime love and connection with Paddy, but the more ordinary part of me was waiting to be felt, bereft. Most of the big heartbreak painful tears were shed in those days.
Paddy and I were somewhat prepared for his passing as his health has been poor for some years and we’d discussed the eventuality of it happening before me many times. (He was also 12 years older.) As the thoughts, feelings and reflections poured through me when he was in hospital and after he died, I saw with great clarity that our relationship was complete, our soul contracts to one and other totally fulfilled. (And Paddy’s personal purpose in this life also complete.) And so there feels to be a perfection that he has passed and that I continue, that it was meant to be. It’s a comforting realisation.
For the last couple of months I’ve been gradually recovering from fatigue – post viral, grief induced and chronic exhaustion from four years of intense caring for Paddy. However I have been hugely supported by my dear friends and family and by the fantastic Scottish island community I am now a part of. And by nature and beauty and freedom and the joy of being able to do things I haven’t been able to for many years. I would say my energy is 90% recovered now.
And my grieving has become softer, gentler. Tears and chats with Paddy are quite frequent, but flow easily and beautifully without pain. My new friends and activities have poured into my life and I am recapturing so much that has been abeyance – not only through 20 years of intense focus and devotion to Paddy and our life together – bringing up my son Jamie and creating Thrivecraft – but also during the 18 years before that when I was involved in a semi-monastic Buddhist lifestyle, being a devotee of another sort.
So I am singing (with Rock Choir), dancing, sea swimming, cycling, walking (lots!), gardening, resting, meditating, writing, taking trips off island, having a stream of visitors stay over (including my dear friend Angie from Senegal for the summer), friends around for dinner or joining them at theirs, lunching out, exploring my incredibly beautiful locality and neighbouring islands. And continue to make amazing new friends and deepen relationships with existing friends and family. I am feeling so much joy, appreciation and love and am sooooo expanded and energtic – a whole new lease of life.
Inspiration for relaunching Thrivecraft (paused these last years while caring for Paddy) bubbles up frequently and I am delighting in those delicious creative impulses quietely gathering power beneath the surface. I am giving myself until the autumn to recover and restore and simply enjoy my new life, friends, family and places, and then I’ll be back with some wonderful Thrivecraft offerings. I can’t wait to see you then!
It’s been a while – and I write to you now feeling like a whole new person!
In March 2021, husband Paddy and I moved to Scotland, to the beautiful Isle of Cumbrae where my mum lived for 20 years with my stepdad. We’ve had many, many holidays and visits over the years and have wondered about moving here before. But now the time is right.
We are absolutely loving it here – so close to stunningly beautiful nature and the people are so warm and friendly. I have been amazed at how powerful it’s been to move back to my homeland after 36 years in London, Devon and Cornwall. I feel like my bones are made of the same stuff as the rocks and that the salty Firth of the Clyde waters are flowing through my veins.
The relocation followed an intense few years which saw three other house moves, Paddy recovering from a stroke and the diagnosis, illness and passing of my dear sister then beloved mum. These three were / are the closest loved ones in my world (along with my son Jamie who is still very much alive and well!) For the last couple of years, I’ve paused Thrivecraft to attend to all that – and to my own recouperation.
Then this September, I suddenly realised I’d completed the arduous, years long trek through the mountains and arrived in a bountiful valley of peace, ease and light heartedness once again. And after a year of honouring my health, fitness and wellbeing as a priority, am feeling more vibrant than I have in a long time.
But there’s more – I have a new name! Since coming back to Scotland I have taken up my middle name, Kay, again. It’s what my Scottish family know me as and it feels right. Since changing, it dawned on me that Maggie Kay was just a transitional label – a professional brand and pen name – after 20 years of being Srimati (my ordained Buddhist name). But Kay is coming home to the ‘real’ me, much like coming home to Scotland – the return of the prodigal daughter after all those years adventuring! So please do call me Kay if you remember!
And speaking of pen names, I also have a new book project! I’ve been feeling like my next book – True Love Cuts Deep: The Strong Woman’s Guide to Letting Go (working title) – is prompting me to start writing. It follows on from my first book, Diving for Pearls: The Wise Woman’s Guide to Finding Love which was published in 2017.
Then, last week, I noticed Nicola Humber of Unbound Press was offering a 5 day writing challenge. And as it happened, I had a clear diary for the first time in months. I took it as a nudge from the Universe, so I signed up. Our first assignment is to announce our book intentions publicly – so here you are!
It’s good to be back!
How are you doing? Fancy some input into meditation over the next four weeks?
I’ve had an inspiration to host a supported 4 week meditation practice experience on Facebook from this Saturday 7th November.
It’s some extra support while you follow my four week Thrivecraft Meditation Foundation course…
…which teaches four wonderful and powerful meditations – one a week.
See link below for details and to sign up for the Thrivecraft Meditation Foundation course if you haven’t already – it’s free.
I’m keeping the course free (was £199) to offer meditation nourishment to as many people as possible during this challenging year. (!!!)
Maybe you’ve already done the course or would like to recap? Or have some support while you finally finish it off? Or maybe you are new to it…
Whichever it is, you are welcome!
We have a private Facebook group for Thrivecraft meditators which you can join here –
The idea is that we connect on Facebook live video on Saturdays and Wednesdays at 12 noon GMT over the four weeks. (or watch later if you can’t make it live.)
Sat 7 Nov – 12 noon
Wed 11 Nov – 12 noon
Sat 14 Nov – 12 noon
Wed 18 Nov – 12 noon
Sat 21 Nov – 12 noon
Wed 25 Nov – 12 noon
Sat 28 Nov – 12 noon
Wed 2 Dec – 12 noon
Sat 5 Dec – 12 noon
I’ll guide some meditation – whichever one we are doing that week – share some tips and answer some questions.
And in between, you’ll be following the course in your own time – watching the videos and practicing daily – so that it’s all complete within the four weeks Sat 7 Nov – Sat 5 Dec.
And we can all keep in touch here in the group – report in and share experiences and ask questions alongside everyone else.
I’ve been enjoying some supported online meditation experiences myself over the last few months and really appreciate how helpful it is to be practicing alongside others.
If you’d like to join, just let me know.
And look forward to getting underway with you on Saturday!!
During this unprecedented time of global ‘retreat’, I am giving FREE access to my 30 day Thrivecraft meditation foundation online course (usual price £199).
Thoroughly learn and practice four wonderful meditations which help you feel good – bringing you calm, happiness, empowerment and wisdom.
I’ll be with you step by step via video – describing and guiding the meditations and sharing information and tips on how to be comfortable, relaxed and get the most from your practice.
Join now and get into your groove with meditation, whether you are brand new to meditation or wanting to refresh your practice.
Just click the link below, sign up and away you go!
With love, Maggie x
I was just finding some resources to contribute to my amazing friend Caroline Palmy‘s new book – Loving Conversations With Me – ‘love bundle’ (more on that below) and came across these videos from a workhop I gave.
I’m not sure I ever published them on my website – so here they are!
And if you haven’t done so already, make sure you download your free MP3 audio of my specially created guided meditation, Ask Your Inner Wisdom.
You can get it right here – Click for Maggie’s inner wisdom meditation
Loving Conversations with Me
Caroline has just opened orders for her new book, Loving Conversations With Me.
To launch her book, she is making available a delightful package of bonuses, including a ‘love bundle’ contributed by eight of her closest soul sister colleagues.
And I’m honoured that I am one of them!
Wow, this has been a few months in the making, but today is the day I open applications for the – new look, much improved, learn from anywhere – accredited Thrivecraft Coach training programme!
A comprehensive one year professional training programme with Thrivecraft Founder, Maggie Kay.
This pragmatic, soulful and inspiring programme provides the knowledge, skills, practical experience and business support to enable you to become an insurable, accredited Thrivecraft Coach…
…galvanised with the confidence and know-how to launch or uplevel your own thriving coaching practice.
Join me on Facebook Live video at Maggie on Facebook :
Thu 1 Nov 4pm GMT – the surprising best way to set your prices as a coach and attract a flow of abundance.
Tue 6 Nov 4pm GMT – guided telepathic marketing meditation to magnetise ideal clients soulfully.
Thu 8 Nov 1pm GMT – why inspiration is better than motivation to create results that last for you and your clients.
Fri 9 Nov 1pm GMT – the hidden crux of the art of manifestation and how to make it work for you and your business.
If you can’t wait to find out more – pop over to the brand new Thrivecraft Academy website at www.thrivecraft.com and it’s all there for you to have a look at.
For more info or to apply for your free Discovery Session with Maggie
drop her an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Today is the day!
After four months of soulful deep diving and creativity – wrapped in ceremony on the June and October full moons – I am ready to reveal the new look Thrivecraft Maggie Kay and announce the launch of the new format Thrivecraft Academy!
So this is just a brief post to let you see the new branding – so skilfully discovered and expressed by my awesome Essence Unveiled Coach and designer Lynda Mangoro (supported by fab new photos taken by our lovely photographer Tony Cobley).
The website has a way to go yet before all the content and text layout is updated and in keeping with the new colours, fonts and layouts – but I couldn’t wait any longer to show you! (Bit of a lesson in being okay with imperfection!)
I couldn’t wait any longer because today is a special day – it would have been my darling sister Katy’s (in spirit) birthday and I chose the 25 October for the big reveal in her honour.
Next Thursday – on 1 November – I’ll be officially launching the gorgeous new Thrivecraft Academy site and opening applications for this year’s accredited Thrivecraft Coach training programme, but if you can’t wait to see that either, here it is…
Thought I’d share with you the ‘behind the scenes’ story of what I’m going through as I ‘re-brand’ and prepare to re-launch Thrivecraft with Maggie Kay this autumn.
Here are my Facebook posts, videos and photos, sharing how it’s been working with Lynda Mangoro who I commissioned to create my new visual designs.
As you can see – it’s all been rather magical!
Thu 21 Jun – summer solstice
Today, summer solstice 12 noon, I ceremonially begin my Essence Unveiled process with artist and designer, Lynda Mangoro.
I’ve commissioned Lynda to support me in birthing the next phase of Thrivecraft with Maggie Kay with ‘branding and design’, but we much prefer to call it unveiling essence!
Lynda sent me a declaration to read aloud and sign whilst burning the candle and incense and wearing a unicorn pendant she chose and provided.
It was simple but surprisingly powerful! Essence Unveiled has begun!
Thu 28 Jun – full moon
Set all my crystals out for a full moon bathe last night (after a salt water rinse).
Was called to stay awake until 3am with the moon along with my love Patrick.
Only got the inspiration to wash and set out the crystals out at 2am!
The next instalment of Essence Unveiled process with Lynda is dreaming into some questions she poses sitting in the sun this afternoon after a magical full moon night.
And opening up to owning the power of my spiritual and magical nature.
Essence Unveiled Full Moon Video (gets a bit glitchy a couple of times but be patient, it’ll come back on) click this link –
Tue 3 Jul – Deep Dive
Wow such a magical day spent with Lynda at the beginning of our Essence Unveiled process (aka brand design in muggle-speak) that Lynda is creating for Thrivecraft with Maggie Kay.
Chatting with tea, flowers, candles, incense, opening the ceremonial space in the Cider House annex, a beautiful view over the garden, guided meditation, sharing my history and vision for the future, seeing around Thrivecraft Home Hub and meeting Patrick, eating delicious lunch, walking to the river, asking the river for a message, exploring meaningful words (and messages from them), a spontaneous blessing / prayer to close, a letting go ritual to complete in the coming days…
That’s how we roll… 😄
So rich and resonant and inspiring – full of promise! Just knew Lynda was the one to help me articulate Thrivecraft for the relaunch this autumn.
And her husband Mike drove her all the way from Sussex and back today, because she felt it was important to tune into my home and energy. Such amazing service. Thank you! 💕
Fri 13 Jul – new moon
Today, Friday 13 on the new moon and eclipse, I’ll be completing my Essence Unveiled explorations with a letting go ceremony.
Lynda spent the day with me 10 days ago to deeply tune in to me so she can create and design the brand images and visual identity that truly communicates who I am and what I offer for my relaunch in September.
Our last exercise was generating a list of things to let go of, as directed by ‘Freedom’ who was speaking through me. Lynda suggested I make a fire and ceremonially burn the list. I didn’t feel ready on the day – knowing some more was to come.
And oh boy did it come!
Part of the list was about needing to be a good girl, to always get it ‘right’ and not upset people – being attached to being approved of and to people pleasing.
Yet the very next day, I inadvertently displeased a close friend and a huge wave of feeling awful about myself tossed me around for a week.
I dreamt about other friends who I’d also inadvertently upset in the past, including an estranged friend I bumped into and spoke to a couple of weeks ago (which is probably what sparked the whole thing off.)
Fortunately, on Wednesday I had a session booked with my excellent coaching buddy and dear friend Terry Brightwater
He helped me see that I’ve been suppressing feelings of being rejected, criticised, judged and disapproved of my whole life as a ‘survival strategy’.
His advice was to just let myself feel all the hurt and pain I’ve been resisting – and that’s exactly what I did – I felt ghastly, but the world did not fall apart and by yesterday it had all washed through me and gone.
What freedom not to have to work so hard to avoid judgement and disapproval!
I’m not sure why my survival strategy is to avoid being judged as I had a very happy, affirming and loving upbringing, but I do know I am super sensitive to criticism and I’ve been saying for a while I’d like to heal and release that.
Perhaps it belongs to a past life. I relate to what Kimberley Jones calls the Witch Wound – fear of persecution for being magical.
Which is interesting because the Essence Unveiled process has revealed that I want to embrace and communicate my magical and spiritual nature and inspiration more explicitly and publicly in my life and work.
I began my Essence Unveiled ceremony on summer solstice, continued the day after charging all my crystals up under the full moon and am completing today.
Friday 13 new moon eclipse seems like the perfect day to ceremonially burn my list of things to let go of.
For me to truly show up and be seen by the global new audience I’m now aiming to reach and serve, I pledge to courageously stand in the truth of who I really am and shine brightly, no matter what people think of me!
Photo taken just after the ceremony – only ashes left in the crucible and wearing my Essence Unveiled unicorn pendant.
Tue 17 July – taking shape
So much magic in my continuing Essence Unveiled (branding and design) process with Lynda.
As she shares images, colours, energetic connections, symbols and ideas from her work with me so far, I’m electrified with inspiration!
Recently we’ve been talking about my Scottishness – nature, ancestors, landscapes – so I sent her this blog with videos of me in Scotland five years ago reclaiming my original name (click link below to view).
And then realised I was wearing the same cardi as in the videos, though I’ve rarely worn it since!
Also noticed we have Scottish thistles growing right by our gate here in Cornwall!
Plus I woke with a powerful dream about reclaiming a large community house I’d allowed to become squatted.
Feel there’s a lot of reclaiming Scottishness going on! Sense my ancestors cheering me on!
Can’t wait to reveal the results of Essence Unveiled to you in a few weeks time – I’ll keep you posted!
You may wonder why it’s been a bit quiet on here of late, well, it’s because we have been working intensively behind the scenes creating our fabulous new Thrivecraft Academy!
In September, we’ll be opening applications for our brand new Thrivecraft Take the Leap coaching programme – a fully supported 90 day transformation experience for you and your business that you can join from anywhere in the world.
Also in the autumn, our accredited Thrivecraft Coach training programme will be relaunched having moved onto it’s new platform, specially designed to make your home learning even more streamlined and straightforward.
From early 2019, Thrivecraft Meditation Foundation and accredited Meditation Teacher training courses will follow, with further new programmes to come after that.
To help us with all this, I’m being mentored intensively by coaching business expert, Kenny Goodman. I have learned from experience how much easier it is to have the right coach or mentor in place to help make the leap.
Plus we have commissioned brand designer Lynda Mangora to create Thrivecraft’s new visual identity over the summer, ready for the big autumn launch.
And I am delighted to announce that Thrivecraft has recruited a fantastic new VA – online business manager, Amy Kneale. Amy will be handling much of the implementation and technical side of Thriveraft so that I can focus on coaching, course creation and delivery.
Although benefiting from our amazing new online learning platform, Thrivecraft programmes will continue to be led by 1-1 and group coaching – a powerful mix that ensures flexible learning with deep support at every step.
More on all of this coming soon! Look out for prelaunch news over the summer. And if you have any ideas of things you’d like to train in or have specific issues you’d love help with, let us know. We are creating the future Thrivecraft together.
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Extract from my new book
How did I manage to find my true love and soul mate?
“Totnes is full of single mothers and hardly any single men” – my new friends in Devon were quite adamant. “I hope you’re not expecting to find a partner down here!” But I wasn’t moving to rural south west England to find a partner, not yet anyway.
After 16 years living in a Buddhist community in London, it was time to move on, and my longing for a rural lifestyle could no longer be ignored. But most importantly of all, my seven-year-old son, Jamie, deserved a more gentle upbringing than a city could afford.
Despite the good reasons, however, there was also an element of strange magnetism I couldn’t put my finger on. In many ways I was leaving a great situation…
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I am delighted to announce the launch of a creative collaboration with my dear friend – Hay House author and TV presenter – Dawn Breslin.
Dawn has been a leading light in the field of personal transformation and coaching for the last 20 years, and her newest venture – ‘Harmonizing: Mindful Life Design’ – is a pro active well being and lifestyle design system to help us live life in the now.
Dawn’s vision is to see ‘inner wellbeing and balance ’ being valued as part of our overall well being psyche; with Harmonizing coaches working alongside massage therapists, nutritionists, yoga teachers and personal trainers in gyms and spas worldwide.
So I was thrilled when Dawn asked me to be Harmonizing’s mindfulness expert! And of course I said yes!
This month, I’ve written a feature on Mindfulness – Pause, Breathe, Notice – for Dawn’s beautiful online magazine, Harmony.
Online Mindfulness and Meditation Course
Harmonizing is also hosting my brand new 4 week online mindfulness and meditation course – Mindfulness For Beginners. Here I am telling you a little more about it:-
Harmonizing Life Review Retreat
At the beginning of March, Dawn is guiding a deeply nurturing Life Review Retreat in Scotland, and I’ll be there teaching the mindfulness module at the beginning of the retreat.
To sign up to receive Harmony magazine free every month, or for more info on the mindfulness course and/or Harmonizing retreat, go to Dawn’s website:-